Be aware that we tend to attract the type of
people to us that we portray ourselves. Said another way, we attract
what we are, not what we want. What kind of guys are you attracting? This
should be evaluated long and hard, and if you are unsatisfied with your
conclusion, you should think about how you're behaving, eating, dressing, etc.
What qualities does he have, what does he do for fun, how does he spend his
free time and so on. So be mindful of the type of woman you are. If you were a
man, would you be interested in you? Why or why not? Put out the same swagger
you wish the man of your dreams had. If you ran into that man, would he, with
his charm and beauty and polish and respect, be interested in all of the woman
you are? Are you the woman of his dreams?
Once that is established, it's time to change
the attractors that are attracting the wrong kind of guys and establish some
new ones! But always remain true to yourself. Make yourself better
not a fake version of yourself. This can be a daunting task at times but one of
the best decisions of your life if you can pull it off. Take some time and do
the things you've always wanted to do to be the woman you have always wanted to
be. You can do this. Make time for you. You make time for everything else in
your life. Are the groceries more important than you are? And just think about
it, you get to give yourself credit for establishing a wonderful relationship for the
rest of his life!
Try paying attention to the way you dress. Of
course, dressing is a form of self-expression. Some common things that are done
that can have a negative impact
on who you attract, however, are the outfits you may choose. There are many
women that continue to hold the misguided belief, "If I can only
physically attract a guy through dressing provocatively, he will stay around
long enough to get to know the true me." The problem with this way of
thinking is that you are in most cases attracting the kind of guy that wants a
physical relationship and thinks that because of the way you present yourself
you will provide him with this very quickly. When, or if, this does not happen,
he may very well leave. Be you. You can definitely be sexy and a little bit more
respectable. Men are visual creatures. Their eyes usually send them the first
messages about you and they put you in a mental category from the start. Are
you "right now" material or are you "meet my mom" material?
You decide while always being true to yourself and him.
Another thing you can do to increase the quality
of man that you are attracting is to smile and look approachable. After
all, how exactly did he get your attention?
Portray confidence, a positive attitude and
acceptance. That is the most sexy thing you can do. Have
you ever come across a couple and wonder to yourself, "How in the world
did those two get together?" Well, many times it was because of the confidence level of
one of the partners, usually the woman. Reach into yourself and pull out the
you that privately looks into the mirror sometimes and knows exactly what you
want and how to get it. All you have to do now is show it to him. You'll be
surprised at the reaction you receive.
Love yourself. If you don't, how would
you expect him to? Men don't look at women with low self-esteem and think,
"Ooh, how sexy is that?" So, if this step is hard for you, think
about taking some time off to take care of yourself and get yourself together.
Believe me, to a wonderful, loving, respectable man there's nothing more
attractive than a woman with her life together.
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